Today is my beloved daughter's 4th birthday.made by myself the birthday cake.the celebration done at her kiddy- Wawasan Kejayaan Educare with her friends.my wish for her is...
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Today is my beloved daughter's 4th birthday.made by myself the birthday cake.the celebration done at her kiddy- Wawasan Kejayaan Educare with her friends.my wish for her is...
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Baking....baking...this is my latest craziness.Manage to join 1 basic cupcake class back in KL.and now, still exploring the wonder world of baking....
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Ahmad Eirfan Effendi today is 2 years old.become more talkative,like mechanical things,know how to sulk and like to 'kacau' kakak Erisya. He had twice celebration. once done with his friends at Wawasan Kejayaan Educare nursery and another with his cousin Afif. My wish to his...
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i never expect this would be happening to me...i've got two healthy kids,two wonderful pregnancy time.but who would expect the third pregnancy would be ended with miscarriage.my happiness of finding that the third baby is coming in ended on 25th november 2008 at the age of 7 weeks.so...for those who face the same fate as me....this article from http://www.babycenter.com/might be helpful to cope with.
Miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy in the first 20 weeks. About 15 to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, and more than 80 percent of these losses happen before 12 weeks.
This doesn't include situations in which you lose a fertilized egg before you get a positive pregnancy test. Studies have found that 30 to 50 percent of fertilized eggs are lost before a woman finds out she's pregnant, because they're lost so early that she goes on to get her period about on time -- in other words the woman doesn't realize she was pregnant at all.
If you lose a baby after 20 weeks of pregnancy, it's called a stillbirth.
Between 50 and 70 percent of first trimester miscarriages are thought to be random events caused by chromosomal abnormalities in the fertilized egg. Most often, this means that the egg or sperm had the wrong number of chromosomes, and as a result, the fertilized egg can't develop normally.
In other cases, a miscarriage is caused by problems that occur during the delicate process of early development — for example, when an egg doesn't implant properly in the uterus or an embryo has structural defects that don't allow it to continue developing. Since most healthcare practitioners won't do a full-scale workup after a single miscarriage, it's usually impossible to tell why the pregnancy was lost. And even when a detailed evaluation is performed — say after you've had two or three consecutive miscarriages — the cause still remains unknown in about half of cases.
When the fertilized egg has chromosomal problems, you may end up with what's sometimes called a blighted ovum (now usually referred to in medical circles as an early pregnancy failure). In this case, the fertilized egg implants in the uterus and the placenta and gestational sac begin to develop, but the resulting embryo either stops developing very early or doesn't form at all.
Because the placenta begins to secrete hormones, you'll get a positive pregnancy test and may have early pregnancy symptoms, but an ultrasound will show an empty gestational sac. In other cases, the embryo does develop for a little while but has abnormalities that make survival impossible, and development stops before the heart starts beating.
Once your baby has a heartbeat — usually visible on ultrasound at around 6 weeks — your odds of having a miscarriage drop significantly.
Though any woman can miscarry, some are more likely to miscarry than others. Here are the most common risk factors:
• Age: Older women are more likely to conceive babies with chromosomal abnormalities, and to miscarry them as a result. In fact, 40-year-olds are about twice as likely to miscarry as 20-year-olds.
• A history of miscarriages: Women who have had two or more miscarriages in a row are more likely than other women to miscarry again.
• Certain chronic diseases or disorders: Poorly controlled diabetes, certain inherited blood clotting disorders, certain autoimmune disorders (such as antiphosphilipid syndrome or lupus), and certain hormonal disorders (such as polycystic ovary syndrome).
• Uterine or cervical problems: Having certain uterine abnormalities or a weak or abnormally short cervix (known as cervical insufficiency).
• A history of birth defects or genetic problems: Having had a child with a birth defect, or a family history (or a partner with a family history) of genetic problems.
• Certain infections: Research has shown a somewhat higher risk for miscarriage if you have listeria, mumps, rubella, measles, cytomegalovirus, parvovirus, gonorrhea, HIV, and certain other infections.
• Smoking, drinking, and using drugs: Smoking a lot, drinking too much alcohol, and using drugs like cocaine and ecstasy during pregnancy can all increase your risk for miscarriage. And some studies show an association between drinking four or more cups of coffee a day and a higher risk of miscarriage.
• Taking certain medications: Some medications have been linked to increased risk of miscarriage, so it's important to ask your caregiver about the safety of any medications you're taking even while you're trying to conceive. This goes for prescription and over-the-counter drugs, including nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) like ibuprofen and aspirin.
• Exposure to environmental toxins: Environmental factors that might increase your risk include lead; arsenic; some chemicals, like formaldehyde, benzene, and ethylene oxide; and large doses of radiation or anesthetic gases.
• Paternal factors: Little is known about how the father's condition may contribute to a couple's risk for miscarriage, though the risk increases with the father's age. Researchers are studying the extent to which sperm could be damaged by environmental toxins but still manage to fertilize an egg. Some studies have found a greater risk of miscarriage when the father has been exposed to mercury, lead, and some industrial chemicals and pesticides.
Your risk of miscarriage also rises with each child you bear and if you get pregnant within three months after giving birth.
Vaginal spotting or bleeding is usually the first sign of miscarriage. Keep in mind, though, that up to 1 in 4 pregnant women have some bleeding or spotting (finding spots of blood on your underpants or toilet tissue) in early pregnancy, and half of these pregnancies don't end in miscarriage.
You may also have abdominal pain, which usually begins after you first have some bleeding. It may feel crampy or persistent, mild or sharp, or may feel more like low back pain or pelvic pressure. If you have both bleeding and pain, the chances of your pregnancy continuing are much lower.
It's very important to be aware that vaginal bleeding, spotting, or pain in early pregnancy can also signal an ectopic or a molar pregnancy. If you have any of these symptoms, call your doctor or midwife right away so she can determine whether you have a potential problem that needs to be dealt with immediately. Also, if your blood is Rh-negative, you may need a shot of Rh immune globulin within two or three days after you first notice bleeding, unless the baby's father is Rh-negative as well.
Some miscarriages are first suspected during a routine prenatal visit, when the doctor or midwife can't hear the baby's heartbeat or notices that your uterus isn't growing as it should be. (Often the embryo or fetus stops developing a few weeks before you have symptoms, like bleeding or cramping.) If your practitioner suspects that you've had a miscarriage, she'll order an ultrasound to see what's going on in your uterus and possibly do a blood test.
Call your doctor or midwife immediately if you ever notice unusual symptoms such as bleeding or cramping during pregnancy. Your practitioner will examine you to see if the bleeding is coming from your cervix and check your uterus. She may also do a blood test to check for the pregnancy hormone hCG and repeat it in two to three days to see if your levels are rising as they should be.
If you're having bleeding or cramping and your practitioner has even the slightest suspicion that you have an ectopic pregnancy, you'll have an ultrasound right away. If there's no sign of a problem but you continue to spot, you'll have another ultrasound at about 7 weeks.
At this point, if the sonographer sees an embryo with a heartbeat, you have a viable pregnancy and your risk of miscarrying is now much lower, but you'll need to have another ultrasound later if you continue to bleed. If the sonographer sees an embryo of a certain size but no heartbeat, that means the embryo didn't survive.
If the sac or the embryo is smaller than expected, though, it might just be that your dates are off and you're not as far along as you thought. Depending on the circumstances, you may need a repeat ultrasound within one to two weeks and some blood tests before your caregiver can make a final diagnosis.
If you're in your second trimester and an ultrasound shows your cervix is shortening or opening, your doctor may decide to perform a procedure called a cerclage, in which she stitches your cervix closed in an attempt to prevent miscarriage or premature delivery. (This is assuming your baby appears normal on the ultrasound and you have no signs of an intrauterine infection.) Cerclage isn't without risk, and not everyone agrees on what might make you a good candidate for it.
If you're showing signs of a possible miscarriage, your doctor or midwife may prescribe bedrest in hopes of reducing your chances of miscarrying — but there's no evidence that bedrest will help. She may also suggest you not have sex while you're having bleeding or cramping. Sex doesn't cause miscarriage, but it's a good idea to abstain if you're having these symptoms.
You may have light bleeding and cramping for a few weeks. You can wear sanitary pads but no tampons during this time and take acetaminophen for the pain. If you are miscarrying, the bleeding and cramping will likely get worse shortly before you pass the "products of conception" — that is, the placenta and the embryonic or fetal tissue, which will look grayish and may include blood clots.
If you can, save this tissue in a clean container because your caregiver may want to examine it or send it to a lab for testing to try to find out why you miscarried. In any case, she'll want to see you again at this point, so call her to let her know what's happened.
There are different ways of handling this, and it's a good idea to discuss the pros and cons of each with your caregiver. If there's no threat to your health, you may choose to let the miscarriage happen on its own timeline. (More than half of women spontaneously miscarry within a week of finding out that the pregnancy is no longer viable.) Or you may decide to wait a certain amount of time to see if it happens before having a procedure to remove the tissue.
In some cases, you can use medication to speed up the miscarriage process, although there may be side effects such as nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea. If you choose to wait or take medication to try to speed up the process, there's a chance you'll end up needing to have the tissue surgically removed anyway.
On the other hand, if you find that it's too emotionally trying or physically painful to wait for it to pass, you may decide to just have the tissue removed. This is done by suction curettage or dilation and curettage (D&C). You'll definitely need to have the tissue removed right away if you have any problems, such as significant bleeding or signs of infection, that make it unsafe to wait for a miscarriage. And your practitioner may recommend the procedure if this is your second or third miscarriage in a row, so that they can test the tissue for a genetic cause.
Whether you miscarry on your own or have the tissue removed, you'll have mild menstrual-like cramps afterward for up to a day or so and light bleeding for a week or two. Use pads instead of tampons and take ibuprofen or acetaminophen for the cramps. Avoid sex, swimming, douching, and using vaginal medications for at least a week or two and until your bleeding stops.
If you begin to bleed heavily (soaking a sanitary pad in an hour), have any signs of infection (such as fever, achiness, or foul-smelling vaginal discharge), or feel excessive pain, call your practitioner immediately or go to the emergency room. If your bleeding is heavy and you begin to feel weak, dizzy, or lightheaded, you may be going into shock. In this case, call 911 right away — don't wait to hear from your caregiver, and don't drive yourself to the ER.
No. Although you're likely to be worried about the possibility of another miscarriage, fertility experts don't consider a single early pregnancy loss to be a sign that there's anything wrong with you or your partner.
Some practitioners will order special blood and genetic tests to try to find out what's going wrong after two miscarriages in a row, particularly if you're 35 or older or have certain medical conditions. Others will wait until you've had three consecutive losses. In certain situations, such as if you had a second trimester miscarriage or an early third trimester premature birth from a weakened cervix, you might be referred to a high-risk specialist after a single loss so she can carefully manage your pregnancy.
You may have to wait a bit. Whether you miscarry spontaneously or have the tissue removed, you'll generally get your period again in four to six weeks.
Some practitioners say you can start trying to conceive again after this period, but others recommend that you wait until you've been through another menstrual cycle so that you have more time to recover physically and emotionally. (You'll need to use birth control to prevent conception during this time, because you may ovulate as early as two weeks after you miscarry.)
Though you may be ready physically to get pregnant again, you may not feel ready emotionally. Every woman copes with the grief of early pregnancy loss in her own way.
Some cope best by turning their attention toward trying for a new pregnancy as soon as possible. Others find that months or more go by before they're interested in trying to conceive again. Take time to examine your feelings, and do what feels right for you and your partner. Ask your caregiver where to get counseling or find support groups, if you think that would be helpful.
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Pink eye (conjunctivitis) is an inflammation or infection of the transparent membrane (conjunctiva) that lines your eyelid and part of your eyeball. Inflammation causes small blood vessels in the conjunctiva to become more prominent, which is what causes the pink or red cast to the whites of your eyes.
The cause of pink eye is commonly a bacterial or viral infection, an allergic reaction or — in newborns — an incompletely opened tear duct.
Though the inflammation of pink eye makes it an irritating condition, it rarely affects your sight. If you suspect pink eye, you can take steps to ease your discomfort. But because pink eye can be contagious, early diagnosis and treatment is best to help limit its spread.
Causes of pink eye include:
Viral and bacterial conjunctivitis
Viral conjunctivitis and bacterial conjunctivitis may affect one or both eyes. Viral conjunctivitis usually produces a watery or mucous discharge. Bacterial conjunctivitis often produces a thicker, yellow-green discharge and may be associated with a respiratory infection or with a sore throat. Both viral and bacterial conjunctivitis can be associated with colds.
Both viral and bacterial types are very contagious. Adults and children alike can develop both of these types of pink eye. However, bacterial conjunctivitis is more common in children than it is in adults.
Allergic conjunctivitis
Allergic conjunctivitis affects both eyes and is a response to an allergy-causing substance such as pollen. In response to allergens, your body produces an antibody called immunoglobulin E (IgE). This antibody triggers special cells called mast cells in the mucous lining of your eyes and airways to release inflammatory substances, including histamines. Your body's release of histamine can produce a number of allergy signs and symptoms, including red or pink eyes.
If you have allergic conjunctivitis, you may experience intense itching, tearing and inflammation of the eyes — as well as itching, sneezing and watery nasal discharge. You may also experience swelling of the membrane (conjunctiva) that lines your eyelids and part of your eyeballs, resulting in what may look like clear blisters on the whites of your eyes.
Conjunctivitis resulting from irritation
Irritation from a chemical splash or foreign object in your eye is also associated with conjunctivitis. Sometimes, flushing and cleaning the eye to rid it of the chemical or object causes redness and irritation. Signs and symptoms, which may include a mucous discharge instead of pus, usually clear up on their own within about a day.
Risk factors for pink eye include:
Both viral and bacterial conjunctivitis are common among children and are very contagious. Someone with conjunctivitis may be contagious for seven to 14 days after signs and symptoms first appear.
People who wear contact lenses, especially extended-wear lenses, may be more prone to conjunctivitis.
Bacterial conjunctivitis
If your infection is bacterial, your doctor may prescribe antibiotic eyedrops as pink eye treatment, and the infection should clear within several days. Antibiotic eye ointment, in place of eyedrops, is sometimes prescribed for treating bacterial pink eye in children. An ointment is often easier to administer to an infant or young child than are eyedrops, though they may blur vision for up to 20 minutes after application. With either form of medication, you should notice a marked improvement in signs and symptoms within one to two days. Be sure to use the medication for the entire time your doctor prescribes it, to prevent recurrence of the infection.
Viral conjunctivitis
Viral conjunctivitis doesn't respond to treatment with antibiotic eyedrops or ointment. Like with a common cold, you can use an over-the-counter remedy to relieve some symptoms, but the virus just has to run its course. You may notice a worsening of symptoms in the first three to five days. After that, your signs and symptoms should gradually clear on their own. It may take up to two to three weeks from the time you were infected for the virus to go away.
Practicing good hygiene is the best way to control the spread of pink eye. Once the infection has been diagnosed, follow these steps:
If your child is infected, avoid close contact with other children. Many schools send children with conjunctivitis home, and will likely ask that your child receive at least one full day of treatment before returning.
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dipetik dari http://www.geocities.com/CollegePark/Classroom/7362/1syaban.html
Sebahagian ahli hikmah menyatakan bahawa sesungguhnya bulan Rejab adalah kesempatan untuk meminta ampun dari segala dosa, pada bulan Syaaban adalah kesempatan untuk memperbaiki diri dari segala macam cela dan pada bulan Ramadhan adalah masa untuk menerangkan hati dan jiwa.
Syaaban ertinya berpecah atau bercerai-berai. Dinamakan demikian kerana orang-orang Arab pada bulan tersebut bertempiaran ke mana-mana tempat untuk mencari air, setengahnya mengatakan bahawa mereka mencari air itu di gua-gua.
Sebahagiannya pula mengatakan sebab diertikan demikian kerana ia sebagai pemisah iaitu memisahkan di antara bulan Rejab dan Ramadhan.
Menurut Yahya bin Mu'adz pula : Sesungguhnya perkataan Syaaban itu terbentuk dari lima huruf, yang mana setiap huruf merupakan singkatan kurnia kepada orang-orang yang beriman.Dari berbagai keterangan mengenai pengertian bulan Syaaban itu tadi dapatlah disimpulkan bahawa pada bulan ini adalah masa untuk manusia berebut-rebut mengejar kebajikan sebanyak mungkin sebagai latihan dan persediaan untuk memasuki bulan Ramadhan.
Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang maksudnya : "Tahukah kamu sekalian, mengapa dinamakan bulan Syaaban?" Mereka menjawab : "Allah dan Rasul-Nya lebih mengetahui". Baginda bersabda : "Kerana di dalam bulan itu berkembanglah kebaikan yang banyak sekali." (Dipetik dari kitab Raudatul Ulama).
Diriwayatkan oleh Imam Bukhari dan Muslim daripada Sayidatina Aisyah Radhiallahuanha, dia telah berkata yang maksudnya :
"Adalah Rasulullah SAW sering berpuasa hingga kami menyangka bahawa Baginda berpuasa berterusan dan Baginda sering berbuka sehingga kami menyangka bahawa Rasulullah akan berbuka seterusnya. Aku tidak pernah melihat Baginda berpuasas ebulan penuh kecuali pada bulan Ramadhan dan aku tidak pernah melihat Baginda berpuasa sunat dalam sebulan yang lebih banyak dari puasanya di bulan Syaaban." (Hadis riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim).
Dari hadis di atas dapatlah difahami bahawa ini menunjukkan kelebihan bulan Syaaban dari bulan-bulan yang lain dari segi pemilihan bulan untuk beramal ibadat selain dari bulan Ramadhan.
Selain dari itu, Rasulullah SAW pernah mengumpamakan keutamaan bulan ini dengan keutamaan diri Baginda sendiri ke atas nabi-nabi yang lain. Sabda Baginda yang maksudnya :
"Keutamaan bulan Syaaban ke atas bulan-bulan yang lain adalah seperti keutamaan saya di atas semua nabi-nabi yang lain, sedangkan keutamaan bulan Ramadhan ke atas semua bulan yang lain adalah seperti keutamaan Allah Taala ke atas makhluk-Nya."
Amalan-amalan di bulan Syaaban
Di antara amalan-amalan yang digalakkan pada bulan Syaaban adalah :
1. Memperbanyakkan puasa sunat
Sebagaimana yang telah dijelaskan terdahulu bahawa RAsulullah SAW lebih gemar untuk berpuasa sunat dalam bulan Syaaban berbanding dengan bulan-bulan yang lain. Justeru itu adalah patut bagi kita selaku umat Baginda mencontohinya dalam memperbanyakkan puasa sunat bagi menyemarak dan mengagungkan bulan Syaaban ini.
Di dalam kitab Durratun Nasihin ada menyebut sebuah hadis yang menyatakan bahawa Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang maksudnya :
"Barangsiapa berpuasa tiga hari pada permulaan Syaaban dan tiga hari pada pertengahan Syaaban dan tiga hari pada akhir Syaaban, maka Allah Taala mencatat untuknya pahala seperti pahala tujuh puluh nabi dan seperti orang-orang yang beribadat kepada Allah Taala selama tujuh puluh tahun dan apabila dia mati pada tahun itu maka dia seperti orang yang mati syahid."
2. Memperbanyak doa, zikir dan membaca selawat kepada Rasulullah SAW.
Sabda Rasulullah SAW : "Barangsiapa yang mengagunkan bulan Syaaban, bertaqwa kepada Allah, taat kepada-Nya serta menahan diri dari perbuatan maksiat, maka Allah Taala mengampuni semua dosanya dan menyelamatkannya di dalam tahun itu dari segala macam bencana dan penyakit." (Dipetik dari kitab Zubdatul Wa'izhin)
3. Bertaubat
Diriwayatkan dari Umamah Al Bahili Radiallahuanhu, dia berkata : Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang maksudnya : "Manakala masuk bulan Syaaban, sukacitalah dirimu dan perbaiki niatmu."
Sebahagian ahli hikmah menyatakan bahawa sesungguhnya bulan Rejab adalah kesempatan untuk meminta ampun dari segala dosa, pada bulan Syaaban adalah kesempatan untuk memperbaiki diri dari segala macam cela dan pada bulan Ramadhan adalah masa untuk menerangkan hati dan jiwa.
Malam Nisfu Syaaban
Malam 15 Syaaban atau lebih dikenali sebagai malam Nisfu Syaaban adalah satu malam yang sunat dirayakan dalam syariat Islam kerana ia merupakan malam yang paling mustajab dan penuh rahmat.
Malam nisfu Syaaban ini sayugialah kita hidupkan dengan membaca Surah Yaasiin tiga kali selepas sembahyan fardhu Maghrib. Dan setiap kali lepas membaca Yaasiin akan dibaca doa. Pada bacaan Yaasiin pertama diniatkan dengan memohon panjang umur, pada bacaan kali kedua diniatkan dengan memohon agar dijauhkan dari bala dan pada bacaan ketiga diniatkan memohon murah rezeki yang halal. Cara lain ialah menghidupkan malam nisfu Syaaban dengan berhimpun membaca zikir dan Al Quran.
Doa Malam Nisfu Syaaban.
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